I just read an interesting article by Meredith Miller about what happens to Christian students when they enter college.  Research being done suggests that students losing their faith is less of a danger than locking up their faith and not engaging the world with it.  An important read for youth workers.

Check out her article HERE.

(thanks to ysmarko)

Over the years I’ve encountered several metaphors for sin and how it separates us from God. Here are two common ones.

Sin is a giant chasm that separates us from God.
Sin is a giant wall that separates us from God.

These metaphors are usually accompanied by commentary about how “God can’t handle sin,” or how “God just can’t be in the same room as sin.” While I understand the language of separation when talking about sin, I’m finding these metaphors really unhelpful because they limit God, and inevitably make sin the stronger force. I don’t think any of us want to say that, but these metaphors imply that. As if to say that sin is something you could use to ward off God, or that sin is God’s Kryptonite. I think what we really want to be saying is that sin cannot handle God, or that sin couldn’t bear to be in the same room as God, etc.

In light of that, help me to think of some new metaphors that would speak of the separation caused by sin but still have a robust theology of God’s dominion. What metaphor would you use?

As I’ve been preparing for an upcoming series on sexuality in our High School ministry I’ve been trying to read some fresh stuff that engages sexuality from a theological point of view with special attention towards discipleship. I’ve been pretty underwhelmed by so much of the church’s teaching on sexuality for so long. I’ve used curriculum that I felt went straight for the “what’s over the line” question and felt schizophrenic in it’s mixture of guilt and affirmation of sex. As I teach on sex I wanted to really do an excellent job of engaging sexuality, theology and discipleship this time around. So two books immediately hit the top of my “must read” list. 1. Rob Bell’s Sex God and 2. Lauren F. Winner’s Real Sex. I’ve heard Winner speak on the topic of chastity in a break out session at Youth Specialties this past year and she was great.

I’m really glad I took the time to read Bell’s book before engaging this subject with the youth at our church. Bell’s style of writing is so conversational that it belies the deep theological work he’s doing in this book. Bell’s catch phrase quickly becomes “this is really about that.” And over and over again he makes connections between sexuality and spirituality and about how “this” is really all about “that.” Bell’s definition of sexuality alone was extremely helpful.

“For many, sexuality is simply what happens between two people involving physical pleasure. But that’s only a small percentage of what sexuality is. Our sexuality is all of the ways we strive to reconnect with our world, with each other, and with God (42).”

Hmm, sexuality is all the ways we try to reconnect? That means that even the celibate can practice and express their sexuality. And on the very next page Bell makes this point saying,

“Some of the most sexual people I know are celibate.

They sleep alone.

They have chosen to give themselves to lots of people, to serve and give and connect their lives with beautiful and worthy causes (43).”

Bell takes this understanding of sexuality to deconstruct our culture’s definition of sexuality. Some of the most overt expressions of “sexuality” in our world are the exact opposite of real sexuality. To illustrate this Bell describes the infamous “Red Light District” in Amsterdam where women sit in store front windows advertising themselves for prostitution. The transaction that happens between a man who goes to one of these prostitutes and the woman herself is just that, a transaction. Physical sex happens, but there is no reconnection. Indeed this kind of sex only serves to further divide and isolate the two parties. The man uses the woman for his own physical gratification and the woman falls deeper into the darkness of her situation. This is the exact opposite of two human beings reconnecting, and we still call it sex.

Bell’s treatment of pre-marital sex is good. As far as I remember he never even used the term “pre-marital sex.” Instead Bell contrasts “taking your clothes off” and “getting naked.” Anyone can take their clothes off and have sex, but in the end this is not true reconnection. Real reconnection happens in physical sex when both parties can be naked with one another. Being naked is about way more than taking off clothes, it’s about trust, it’s about security, it’s about accepting the other person with all their faults and still loving them. It’s about being willing to die for the other person and the promise to remain faithful. Getting naked requires the commitment of marriage, the commitment to serve one another as Christ did the church. As always, “this” is really about “that.”

I could go on and on… needless to say, I thought it was a great book.

A few weeks ago we hosted a youth worker training night for the Middle School and High School shepherds at our church. Mike King was gracious enough to come facilitate the training for us. Mike is the President of YouthFront, an interdenominational youth ministry assisting organization. They put on a lot of concerts, community service events, camps, prayer retreats and the like to be a service to youth ministries in the Kansas City area. But another focus of YouthFront is training youth workers and that happens all over North America, primarily through their branch called SonLife. Both Mike and the President of SonLife, Chris Folmsbee, have recently written some amazing books for youth ministry, Presence Centered Youth Ministry and A New Kind of Youth Ministry respectively.

What’s funny is that I didn’t meet Mike during some big youth event or camp while I was in Kansas City, I met him at Seminary. Mike’s in his 50’s, he’s the President and CEO of an incredibly successful youth ministry organization but he still has a passion for learning and thinking theologically about ministry. If you pick up his book you’ll see what I mean. So it was a pleasure to have Mike come and do some training with our youth shepherds. He was very encouraging and affirming about the work that’s happening in our church. It’s always good to be with friends. Later Mike had breakfast with some of our staff at the Princetonian Diner and after that he and I went to Small World Coffeehouse to hang out until he got picked up on his way to visit Ian Cron and the youth workers at Trinity in Greenwich, CT.

What a great week.

Chris Folmsbee presented in one of the “Super Seminars.” His was all about a narrative approach to youth ministry. As a youth pastor who has been deeply shaped by narrative theology and is in turn beginning to use narrative theology in youth ministry I was naturally drawn to his seminar. That and Chris brought his ministry SonLife to Kansas City and now works with my friend Mike King at YouthFront.

Chris really hit on a lot of the same ground Lauren Winter did in her chastity seminar on the foundational idea that we have to start with the story of God before we ever get to sexual ethics (or whatever).

In a similar vein Chris helped us to see that the foundation of youth ministry is the Story of God. On that foundation is built the next level, Theology, what we say about God based on His story. Then comes the Identity & Calling, or what we can say about ourselves based on the Story and who God is… and the implications of what that calls us to. Then that calling or implication moves towards a Rule of Life, how do we approach life in light of the Story, in light of who God is, in light of who we understand that calls us to be. Then… and only then, can we talk about behaviors and practices in a way that is truly rooted in the gospel.

Chris’s critique of youth ministry is a good one, we have for too long started with the behaviors and practices… what good kids should be like, etc. and then tried to get to the story of God from there. While it’s well intentioned, it gives no context to why of all those behaviors and practices might be important. This was the same point I believe that Lauren Winter was making in her seminar on chastity, we have to do the hard work of weaving the gospel in to the lives of kids before we can start talking about concrete practices of the Christian life.

We need to be honest enough to say that Christian living isn’t just about “common sense.” The stuff we do is weird and odd and while it might seem really wise and good to an older generation the younger generation needs to be brought along to find themselves in the Story of God before we can ask them to live like Christians.

That involves a risk on our part. It means we work harder at weaving the gospel into the lives of our students before we try to instill “Christian ethics” into them, because without the foundation of the Story of God those practices will be rooted in a very shallow soil and inevitably will wash away when they leave “youth ministry” behind.

Phyllis Tickle spoke at the general session the second day of YS. She gave us a brief survey in church history of what she called “rummage sales,” that is those times of major upheaval in the church, usually when something huge in the prevailing culture challenges the church’s assumptions about reality, etc. It seems that these major upheavals happen every 500 years or so. In 70 AD there was the fall of the temple when Christianity became seen as more than just a sect of Judiasm, then there was the decline of Rome between the 400’s and the 500’s, next there was the Great Schism in 1054 between the East and the West in the church dividing Christianity between Roman Catholic and Eastern Orthodox. Next would come the Protestant Reformation beginning in 1517 with Martin Luther.

Tickle explained that we are in the beginning stages of one of these great upheavals right now, one she called “The Great Emergence.” Of course she was talking about the shift in our culture from the modern to the postmodern and the church’s response, largely seen in movements like the emerging church. YS is such a diverse gathering, not lacking in anti-emergent types, so when it became obvious where she was going with this I was delighted. Tickle has such a great gift of communication and I was glad to have her explain the emerging church to a crowd that would be full of both full-on emergents and anti-emergents alike. She briefly explained that technology has made our world much smaller, giving us access to so much more of the world than we had during the previous 500 years. Christians are much more aware of (and appreciate) the rest of Christianity in ways they didn’t before. To illustrate this Tickle drew us a diagram which I’ve tried to recreate here.

In the top left quadrant are the Liturgical Christians (Catholic, Orthodox, Anglican, etc.) who are starting to look more and more alike in the current landscape of Christianity. In the top right quadrant are the Social Justice Christians (a lot of our mainline churches fall into this category - Presbyterian, Methodist, Christian Church, etc.) and though they come from different theological streams they are beginning to look very similar to one another in the current Christian landscape. In the bottom left are the Renewalists (she equated them with the Pentecostals) and the bottom right are the Evangelicals. I think she tried to give each group a new name to emphasize that these quadrants are not necessarily descriptive of entire denominations, that is, these days you can find fairly Evangelical Presbyterian churches (I work at one, I should know!) or Liturgical Nazarene churches (again, I’ve been in a few of those). Her point was, the landscape is changing and we are becoming more aware of the other quadrants. Not just more aware, but many of us are finding those other quadrants to not only be entirely compatible with our own, but attractive and beautiful.

To boil it down even more…

Nazarenes are discovering the liturgy and they’re falling in love with it.

Presbyterians are starting to talk about Jesus and having a personal relationship with God.

Pentecostals are buying compact-fluorescent light bulbs and building houses for the poor.

and on and on.

The purple circle are those who are somewhere inbetween in this whole emerging church thing, they’re emergent but they’re not giving up on their particular tradition (the Presbymergents, Emergent Nazarenes, etc.). This is where I find myself.

This phenomenon of blurring the distinctions between one narrow stream of Christianity and another, the borrowing of someone else’s tradition’s gifts and using them as if they belong to the whole church… that describes what’s happening in the Emerging Church. In some ways it’s a (re)discovery of some of the gifts within our Christian faith that we’ve separated ourselves from over the past few hundred years. Denominations are becoming less important. And I pray to God, that the glue that holds this whole Emerging Church thing together is Jesus Christ. At the center of this diagram, the Emerging Church is an experiment of what it might look like to do church as if the denominational boundaries aren’t what hold us together, but Jesus is.

And here’s where the corners of each quadrant are so important. The corners are the reactionary anti-emergent voice within each tradition. They keep us from from falling off the face of the map into “unity for the sake of unity”-ism. Their critique’s may seem harsh and inflexible, and they may call us heretics for embracing (or at least appreciating) what another stream of Christianity has to offer… but they are our roots, that’s where we come from and it’s important to remember where you come from. The hardliners will help the emerging church to articulate its faith by challenging it so much.

Tickle gave a warning and a charge at the end of her talk saying, every time there has been one of these church upheavals Christians have deionized each other and resorted to violence in their disagreements. This time we need to remember that there are Christians all over that map, our tradition does not “own” the only true expression of the Christian faith. We would do well to work out the tumultuous future of our faith with humility and peaceableness.

Mike King led a break out session that covered a lot of the same ground he covered in his book Presence Centered Youth Ministry on Saturday morning. Mike’s calling to those in youth ministry (and to be honest Christians in general) is to take care of our souls and find ways and rhythms in which we connect to God and are fed. This is a much higher priority for the integrity of our ministry than any program or strategy no matter how “effective” they promise to be. So for a little over an hour we explored Christian disciplines that have been life-giving to the Church for thousands of years. There were no programmatic suggestions, or 7 highly-effective strategies to take home to our youth, just Mike’s passion for youth workers to connect with God and to do so in a way that is true to themselves.

This means opening our eyes to the deep well of Christian spirituality. For so long we have been told that Christian spirituality was about 15minute quiet times and praying through a list of wants and needs. Mike explored with us different ways of reading scripture, especially meditatively, through practices like lectio divina or imaginative reading (visualizing the text as a world you can step into and explore). I am especially excited about the contemplative spirit Mike and his team at YouthFront have brought to camp ministry.

Shane Claiborne was tonight’s general session speaker. These speakers are usually the “big guns” and are charismatic, charming, well polished, impressive… you know, the kind of speakers that make you wish you were way better at speaking or preaching. And as we all know Shane Claiborne just wrote a book in the past two years that has just been hugely important for so many of us. It’s turned this little-known servant of Jesus from the rough part of Philly and made him somewhat of a Christian rock-star. People are calling him our generation’s Mother Teresa, etc, etc. I love Shane’s heart, I love his vision, I love what he’s about. And Shane is all about Jesus. Tonight he showed us that, while simultaneously begging the question if we are indeed all about Jesus. You see Shane was flown in here to be tonight’s “big gun speaker” and after about 30 seconds of intro, playing with fire and a joke, Shane just launched into the Sermon on the Mount… and I mean ALL OF IT. Then he ends with “Wow, that was the greatest sermon ever preached. Jesus give us the courage to live it out.”

Done.

Exit stage right.

There was an interesting reaction. On the one hand a lot of people are thinking, what?? he got paid the big bucks and got center stage to just go up and read from the bible? I could have done that. Then immediately following those judgmental thoughts came the reflection on just how hyped up we get on “good speakers” and how distant Jesus’ words have become to us when we hear the greatest sermon ever preached and find ourselves thinking we didn’t get what we came for. You could feel the awkwardness rise in the air as people began to wonder to themselves “was that really IT?” and then a reverence fall over the crowd as we realized what we had just thought and how pitiful we can be at times.

National Youth Worker’s Conference is something I’ve wanted to go to for years and this year I am finally here! A bunch of youth staff and shepherds came out from our Church together. We left Allentown at 5am to get on a plane from New Jersey to Atlanta and it’s been non-stop ever since. I wasn’t here 5 minutes before I spotted Mike King and gave him a big hug.

I want to take a moment to highlight some stuff from Lauren F. Winner’s breakout session on teaching chastity to teens. This has been something I struggle with as a teacher/preacher/mentor to teens. As Winter said, the “pragmatic” scare tactics obviously don’t work and they don’t speak to the sacredness of sex in it’s right context. One major mistake we often make in our teaching on sex, Winter pointed out, is that we focus teaching about Chastity on sex itself rather than framing it within the life of discipleship. So chastity becomes a “strategy” to win a good Christian partner or something along those lines. This avoidance of sex as a way to make yourself more sexy to the right person is not chastity.

Winter reminded us that chastity is a Christian discipline, specifically a discipline of restraint (like fasting). And like fasting, Chastity is meant to turn your attention from one thing (like food, or sex in this case) and instead focus on God. By approaching chastity in this way, “not having sex” is not about avoiding disease or attracting the right kind of mate, but is a very important way in which you discipline your body to obey God. Chastity is a practice of surrendering our will and desire to God so that he might rehabilitate our will and our desire. This kind of chastity cannot simply be undertaken by the lone individual but must be lived out in a community that will support such disciplines.

This kind of chastity only makes sense then, to disciples of Christ who are already on the journey towards surrendering their lives to God. This seemed to upset some people in our session who wanted Winter to talk about how to explain this kind of chastity to a non-Christian kid. Her answer was pretty simple, chastity is a Christian spiritual discipline, and you can’t expect a kid to live into that kind of discipleship before they actually connect with God. But we seem to get the cart in front of the horse on this one by trying to conjure up reasons for non-Christian kids to stop having sex, and in so doing we abandon the language of discipleship that is at the very core of what chastity is all about.

For more check out her book, Real Sex: the Truth About Chastity

I haven’t been blogging much of late, but for good reason. Earlier this month I joined the staff at Allentown Presbyterian Church just a few miles down the road from our home in Princeton. Life has been busy as I’ve been getting ready for the upcoming year and learning as much as I can as fast as I can while we still have our amazing youth director, who founded the youth ministry 10 years ago around. She and her husband are taking a year to live in Africa starting next year and there’s a lot of “passing the baton” in these past weeks. I’ll keep blogging, but at least for a while it might be a lot slower than it has been.